Hated Questions and Comments from a Single’s Perspective

Why are you still single?

Do you want to have kids?

Are y’all still together? Why not?

Are you dating someone?

Do you want to get married?

When do you plan on getting married?

Men like… [fill in the blank]

Try not being so picky.

Dear married people,

Yes I am still single. It’s not as if we don’t put enough pressure on ourselves for being single, and in a case as mine, for not having kids. These questions and comments are hurtful. We are very well aware of the fact that we are single. And for those who say maybe we shouldn’t be so picky, were you picky when you were dating? Were you selective before deciding to say yes. I mean, there’s a whole show called “Say Yes to the Dress.” If people have a hard time selecting a wedding dress, why shouldn’t I be picky about the person I choose to spend the rest of my life with?

It is not easy being single. You know else is not easy… having a ton of questions asked about it.

So before you ask another single person any of the questions on that list, please take a second to think before you decide to give advice. If advice isn’t solicited, then think before making any comments.

Someone pretty much told a friend of mine that maybe she would attract men if she didn’t have natural hair. What the older lady didn’t know is the number of men my friend turns down. Please check facts and tainted thoughts. Not welcome here.

If we wanted just any man, I’m sure the pickings are plentiful. But speaking personally, a professional, black man who is saved and truly living for God, and not intimidated by a successful woman – hard to come by.

Yes. I am picky. I deserve to be loved and provided for and respected. I deserve a man who loves God. I deserve a full package. Did you skimp when you got married? I truly hope not. I would love to spend the rest of my life with a man who I can laugh with, cry with, and more. But until that time comes, please be thoughtful before providing advice or even asking questions.

Maybe it’s out of trying to help. Just please think before soliciting advice.

*end rant*

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