So I’m single once again. Big hoorah. Well, not that big. But, as some try, I too have ventured off into the world of online dating – or should I say, this girl has an account, gets flirts, and all that awesomely great stuff (said as I throw up a bit in my mouth). So, I’m thinking it may be fun…or better yet, funny…to chronicle this little adventure. Maybe love will find me, but if not, I’m sure I’ll get a few laughs and interesting stories along the way.
Question 1: Why online dating?
Answer 1: It’s a little easier and less intimidating than meeting people in person.
Question 2: Is this my first attempt at online dating?
Answer 2: No. I’ve tried the online dating scene before and was a bit unsuccessful. After being stood up by a guy I met online, who later apologized, I decided I didn’t want to waste my time. It didn’t matter whether or not he was being honest, I didn’t have the patience for the game.
Question 3: Isn’t online dating a bit desperate?
Answer 3: Hmmm. Good question. Regardless of what we like to call it, we have to meet people some way. You have to do what works for you. If you’re up to it, try it. If you’re too embarrassed by it, keep trying the old-fashioned way? Either way, your end goal is a partner, right? It’s a method.
Question 4: How do you determine crazy?
Answer 4: I honestly don’t know. I haven’t done a ton with online dating sites, but I give the same scan I give in person.
- Looks – no picture, generally no contact.
- Look like a thug? No, thank you.
- Turning up? Yeah, I’m not about that life.
- Don’t be so desperate you turn off your common sense.
- Go beyond looking at the pictures and read profiles.
- Do they share the same moral compass as you? (Their answers should may give you a hint.)
- Did they fill out their profile? If not, I tend to pass on these. I consider it laziness or lack of seriousness.
- Be transparent in your profile. Not all will have read it, but it will give the one who approaches you a sense of who you are. For example, I’m very transparent with that fact that if you don’t have a relationship with God, you shouldn’t even approach me. It won’t stop them all, but hopefully it helps you stand true to what you believe.
- Like I heard before, if it sounds like it’s too good to be true, then it probably is.
- Finally, have conversations online before by phone or in person. Give them a chance to prove to you who they are, either good or bad.