One thing I pride myself on is that I’m a realist. Now, let me get it out there. I know there are some things about my personality that push others buttons. I’m not always the most charismatic speaker, and I can come off a bit brash at times. Sometimes colleagues don’t like it. And my family surely doesn’t like it.
But you know why I find a bit of solace in being a straight shooter is because I don’t fill people up with a bunch of crap. As a realist, I see the glass as half empty and half full. That’s what it is. It’s both!
So I praise when praise is due. And I spit venom around things that I feel need to die.
It’s in my DNA to uncover problems; not because I’m a Negative Nancy, but because it’s also in my DNA to come up with solutions.
I get it. People don’t always like to hear the bad, but there generally are two reasons why I highlight problems: 1) to get to a solution (even if it makes me feel better) and 2) to help people see themselves. To help them become a better them…or at least be true to themselves. If you’re a gossip and you admit you’re a gossip, I’ll be less likely to point it out to you. Heck. You already know. However, if you’re supposed to be a sweet angel, but you can’t keep the business of others off your tongue, I may say something about your behavior…because, frankly, it gets on my nerves. Inauthenticity is high on my list of dislikes.
And simply because I pointed something out doesn’t make me mean. Once again, I’m just a straight shooter. Like Jack Daniels in a shot glass. Kinda buns when it goes down, but you appreciate the feeling after it settles in. 🙂
Now, let’s not get it twisted. I’m not all bad news. In fact, I’m pretty delightful.
I’m a comedian. I love to laugh, and I love to make others laugh.
I’m an encourager, and I push people to do their best.
I’m even a comforter.
Real talk. While being a work in progress, there is much about my personality that is like Christ. (Don’t forget the work in progress part.)
While, I don’t think Jesus was as brash as me, he was no joke. Yeah, he was loving, which I can be, but he was also pretty straight forward. He taught lessons. Corrected me people. And when he was asleep on the boat in the storm, I’m not sure He wanted to be awakened…too far? 🙂
But I also imagine he was quite delightful. I mean He had a ton of followers. No one wants to follow a mean, rude person. Plus, the Bible states the characteristics of love are patient, kind, long-suffering, doesn’t boast in evil, is not self-seeking, etc. And the Bible does say God is love. Just sayin.
The reality is, is that if you asked Jesus if the glass is half empty or half full, he may say both. While I can’t speak for Him, what I do know is neither answer is wrong…and depending on the situation, saying half empty may not be bad. When your gas tank goes on “E”, it’s may seem bad, but it’s really just a sign that it’s time to put more gas in the car. The same goes for those who say it’s half empty…instead of them signaling that the water is almost gone, maybe it’s a signal to put more in so that you won’t run out.
The world is filled with too many dishonest people and people who aren’t upfront with reality when it’s important that we are. That is, in fact, at least one reason why society doesn’t trust people. Politicians lie. Parents lie. And we come to find out that our so-called friends lie. And what happens when people lie? Feelings get hurt. Distrust is birthed, and it grows into an overbearing creature of our existence where we don’t trust our bosses, colleagues, and so on.
And that’s the part that’s not okay.
So the moral of the story…
Honesty is a virtue. Dishonesty and not being upfront comes with a cost. Both literally frame how we view life. Over the years, I’ve learned how to soften my tone, and I, now, pick and choose my battles. I’ve learned that others feelings do matter. I used to be a cocky brat who didn’t care. Now, I actually do care about how I come off to others, and I will take how you will receive the message into consideration. But if your behavior or decision affects my life, or even has the potential to negatively affect your life, you may see me speak up. It’s not always about being right. It’s about doing what I think is best. I get it wrong sometimes, but at least I was honest.