Dedicated to all my single homies.


CAUTION: A few italics may or may not have prematurely lost their lives during the development of this post. 🙂

After clicking on a link on my friends blog the other day, I promptly landed on a mommy blog, and I felt my frustration-level rise almost immediately. It was the feeling of…another club that I’m not part of. And after thinking about it (for a very brief time while standing at my sink), there are all these “self-affirmation”, unity, we love the same thing blogs out there… with the exception of one…the single people unite blog.

Don’t believe me…There are some blog types that seem to prevail. The mommy blog… the fashion blog… celebrity gossip blog… the sports junkie blog…  and the list goes on. (Please add more in the comments.)

I get it; singles aren’t screaming “my love life is amazing” from the mountain tops. In fact, you often find singles

singing anthems filled with “woe it’s me” or ballads filled with love-starved lyrics featuring their quest for their long, lost Prince Charming or feminist-derived compositions of “he ain’t crap.” And while there are plenty of posts about how to get a man, I’ve only heard of maybe one popular one about being single and proud.

But let’s really just be real. If we really think about it, there are some pretty awesome things about being single. (And no, I’m not talking about the “you get to know yourself” line.) – Don’t forget to like and retweet if you’re feeling this post.

  1. You don’t have to schedule dates to hang out with your friends.

    Cereal for dinner is one of the little things that make singlehood a little bit better.
    Cereal for dinner is one of the little things that make single living a little bit better.
  2. You don’t have to check with “no-dang-body” before you make plans.
  3. You can leave the house any time you dang well please.
  4. And then come back any time you dang well please
  5. You can eat WHATEVER you want…
  6. And at any time of the day you want. Chicken for breakfast? Sure. Why not?
  7. You don’t have to worry about what he is doing…
  8. Or who he is calling…
  9. Or whether or not he is lying…
  10. About ANYTHING.
  11. And you don’t have to worry about his boys…
  12. Or what his friends are saying…
  13. Primarily about you.
  14. You don’t have to worry about their 2 cents about you kids…
  15. Or your dog…
  16. Or cat…
  17. Or what you feed them…
  18. Or how you raise them.
  19. You don’t have to hold your gas
  20. The only “stuff” [car, home…] you have to be concerned with is your own.
  21. And you can spend your money on anything you dang well please.
  22. You don’t have to worry about how he thinks you look…
  23. Or how he looks. Are you really wearing that?
  24. You don’t have to compromise on vacation plans…
  25. You don’t have to worry about explaining why you bought another pair of shoes
  26. Or a new shirt
  27. Or a new dress
  28. Or iPhone 6 (since you just got the 5 last year) (yup…I just shamelessly used an Apple link for SEO)
  29. Or [fill in the blank]
  30. And you don’t have to worry about fighting over the blanket
  31. Or sleeping under a sliver of a blanket
  32. Or being stuck at the edge of the bed because your significant other has unconsciously taken up the other 99/100ths of the bed.
  33. You don’t have to worry about the amount of time you spend on your computer
  34. Or on your phone
  35. Or on YouTube
  36. You get the sofa all to yourself
  37. And the chair
  38. And the love seat
  39. You can have a party whenever you want.
  40. The only sandwich you have to worry about making is your own.
  41. If you don’t want to watch football, you don’t have to.
  42. And you don’t have to worry about trying to decipher between a field goal, first down, jump shot, or slap shot.
  43. You don’t have to worry about being a softball – hockey – [fill in the blank] widow.
  44. And you don’t have to worry about fighting with anyone at home…and if you do, that problem is bigger than anything this blog can solve
  45. The only person’s decisions you have to be concerned with are your own
  46. And if you get a job offer, the only thing you have to worry about is the raise and when do you start.
  47. You don’t have to worry about anyone else’s credit score. Whether you’re a 200 or 720.
  48. He/she didn’t eat the last of your favorite food…
  49. Or the leftovers.
  50. And no one is asking you what’s for dinner.
  51. Your house can be a mess and no one has to know…
  52. And you have the luxury of cleaning whenever you get around to it.
  53. You don’t have to compromise about what to watch on TV
  54. Or be forced to watch “that” one more time. (Comment with your “that” in the comments below.)
  55. And you can listen to music as loud as you want without worrying about whether or not you’re disrupting anyone.
  56. You don’t to have to pretend to be okay around others when you’re totally fighting.
  57. You don’t have to act like you care about something you really could care less about. No, I don’t want to play Dungeons and Dragons!
  58. You don’t have to explain why you do that weird thing you do.
  59. And finally, you don’t have to worry about getting into a fight because of something posted on Facebook! *Ooh…look at that donk*

Today, I went on a date. And it was great. We played basketball and then we went for a ride on his moped…wind flying in my hair. To make a long story short, I really like this guy, but there is one HUGE flaw. No, he’s not an ex-con – been there – he has a decent job. Frankly, if it were Jerry McGuire, I’d say “You had me at 401K and good credit.” And he’s genuinely a good person.

But there’s a very moral dilemma I have. His religious beliefs don’t line up with mine…and that’s HUGE. I mean REALLY big. My friends know one of the first questions I ask about the guys they’re dating is “are they saved.” To put it kindly, I can’t say this guy is saved. I can’t even say he has a relationship with Jesus at all. But I like him and at this point, it’s not that easy to let him go. I mean, while in my religious mind, I think that I should, my heart is really with him. He is literally everything that I want with that one exception. Okay, maybe there is more than one exception, but this is the biggest. Outside of this, I really like him.

So now, I don’t know what to do. Should I go or should I stay?

At this point, I’ve decided to stay…at least for a bit longer. One thing I will trust is that through prayer, it’ll work itself out. Either he’ll come to know Christ or the relationship will fizzle out one way or another.

The good thing is that this is just the beginning, and we’re not yet a thing.

If not anything, I can say the day was good. I literally went from “do I really like him” to “oh my gosh, I really like him in one in-person encounter.”

I can’t say I recommend this course of action for anyone, but I know myself. I’m stubborn and I don’t quit that easily. I’m not very strong when it comes to guys. They are kinda my kryptonite…especially when I like them. So, though the saying is insanely funny to me, I’m gonna have to say, “Jesus take the wheel.”

That’s hard enough for me, but I do still come with a heart of submission, wanting to do the right thing, knowing that I need His help, guidance, and will.

Amen.

Even when I’m here
I sometimes have to get away
Escape into emotional release
Where stress, pain, on feelings of overwhelmedness
Don’t consume me

Sometimes I have to say
Not my problem
Not because I don’t want to care
But I can’t care

One person taking
One day to achieve
One moment of bliss
Must take priority

I must exhale
I must release
I must let go

To only achieve
the utlimate embrae
Me in love with me